Thursday, February 1, 2018
Journal with Impact: Personal Reflection Congruence
Workshop:
Six Conversations for Writing Creative
Journals
“It’s
about being who we are that will determine what we do.” Jay Kesler
Congruence
(c)
Jay
Kesler suggests a three-part list exercise to examine our congruence as a way
to scrutinize if our life in action matches up with what we say we believe.
We
often instinctively go into survivor mode when unexpected events spring into
our lives. Both positive and negative situations can create an external and
internal emotional shift in our life patterns that is unsettling.
We
usually bounce back quickly from a major inconvenience, like a flat tire en
route to an important meeting, and we often can cope effectively in short and
long term worries, such as in health warnings or fall out from weather
disasters. Yet when life returns to what we presume to be our "normal," we may
not realize that we have inserted some false or unrealistic coping techniques
that are not good for us in the long run.
Taking
some time out for a congruence thermometer can give us a measuring rod to help
us navigate our ever-changing responsibilities and relationships before we risk
disconnecting with ourselves and others close to us.
I
recommend using different color pens or paper for this idea process.
1.
List yourself in relation to people, responsibilities, ministries, et cetera. What is
your public persona?
2.
List your
feelings in relation to these roles and activities.
3.
List the
passions, desires, wishes, and dreams on your heart. Is there a particular
place of service or activity that you hunger to be involved in? If not, why
not?
4.
Look over
your three lists. Are they congruent with
one another?
Did
you discover any lack of congruence?
Action
Steps:
1. Go back over
your notes and circle all the places that are in sync. Underline all the places
that aren’t and highlight words that don’t seem to match anywhere.
2. Divide your
surprises into positive and negative. Make a note next to each as to why you
feel that way.
3. Choose one
positive to strengthen even more and one negative to begin to change over the
next week.
4. Consider both
short-term and long-term plans to bridge any lack of congruence you discovered
within your relationship with yourself or others.
Share: Were you
surprised by any of your answers?
Read deep, marcy
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